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Build ‘Em Up: Friendships & Motherhood

April 23, 2013 //  by Courtney


Today’s topic for Build ‘Em Up is about Friendships and Motherhood and oh I really pray I don’t take you down. I am supposed to build you up, right? Join my sweet friends, Erin, Kelly and Jennifer for this fun Link Up. Visit their sites and then add yours at the bottom. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic!

 

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This topic like MANY in this stage of life (insert health, marriage, balance, etc.) – it’s just a toss up.

I could do an entire post telling you how HARD it is to make friends as moms. And how more complicated it gets and how less time we have and how you have one conversation over 2 hours – interrupted by 8 kids.

Or, I could go a different direction with this topic and say:

“IT IS WHAT IT IS – SUCK IT UP SISTER. YOU’VE GOT TO.”

And, so… with the risk of ruffling feathers. I’m going with the latter.

I am here to tell you –  I would seriously not survive without friends in this mom world and I recently just had to make it happen.

I have OLD friends – like known me since I was a child and would adopt my kids.

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I have COLLEGE friends – that make me almost vomit with laughter still to this day.

I have some BLOG/FACEBOOK friends that have brought me to tears because they are so in tune with my heart and life than many of my real friends. Some serious encouragers out there and I am grateful.

I have some true HEART FOREVER friends that are just life timers and keep no score. Just pick up where we left off.

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I have the MOM CORE friends that walked me through pregnancy, childbirth and are my lifeline still to this day. We are on a group text spanning 4 states and I live for it, daily.

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One day, we talked about lice, poop, gray hair and tapeworms all in the span of 8 minutes. Pure comedy and survival mode at its finest.

Moving to a new city is not fun. Starting over is not fun.

Maybe you just quit your job?

Maybe you are a new mom?

Maybe you are an empty nester?

Finding friends in any new phase of life or new location is not fun.

But, oh is it worth it.

No matter where you sit today, you know the feeling of loneliness. You know the feeling of “Barney and my 3-year-old aren’t cutting it as my BFFs” and I need a friend. Husbands rule in so many categories. However, girlfriends are fuel to the soul.

They know how to love, laugh, encourage, comfort, soothe, pep talk, us through any situation.

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I have had to accept that no one in Florida will replace my dearest friends from Atlanta. And I don’t want them to.

I have also had to admit – I need community here and I wasn’t going to wait for it. I had to “suck it up sister” and do something.

After a few weeks of crying every Sunday after church. I decided to “start a group” and every time I met a couple that felt like “our kind of people”– I mentioned it. And God worked his magic. Now, five couples meet every week and we are the leaders.

We have five families – and they are our friends. Carrie is one of them – she brought me Gatorade on Friday when I couldn’t stop barfing from a headache. Beth is another one that came in 4 seconds flat to pick up my girls one afternoon of another migraine and has listened to me cry over anything from a a business decision to a marital spat
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I don’t mean to make it so simple and diminish anyone’s loneliness – but sometimes you gotta take that step. Sign up for that bible study or moms group. Ask that girl for a playdate. Show up to that park and introduce yourself. Email that acquaintance for coffee.

It’s totally awkward, but worth every minute of it.

I also think God is extremely interested in this issue for us.

We are meant to live in community and spur one another on. We need real friends that know the depths of our hearts. I want friends on a deep level that we can say things that even scare us to admit. Ones that grow spiritually together. I have those and I’m leaving in a few weeks for the beach with them.

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That replenish trip is not a want – it’s a need. (That was part of my speech to my husband for making it a 3-4night trip – do you like it?)

So, make it happen. Take a step. Pray for it. We all need it. Moms in the same stage, same season. We were never meant to walk these roads alone.

 

Lord, thank you for blessing me beyond belief with more friends than I deserve. Truly, what a gift. I pray that I will be the kind of friend that they are to me. I pray that I will wake up tomorrow and the next day and think how I might lift up or encourage or serve a friend that’s been down or alone. I’ve been so wrapped up with love by many and I need to pay it forward. I believe you had so many of these women waiting in Orlando and I’m honored I get to be their friends.

Mark your calendars for the next topic!

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Category: Build Em Up, Mother's Heart, Role of MomTag: friendship

About Courtney

Courtney DeFeo is most known for being a factory of ideas for families. It’s her desire to lead a life that radiates God’s love in action and His grace along the way. As a former marketing professional for corporations such as Chick-fil-A and Ketchum Public Relations, Courtney has a history of creating memorable programs and ideas that motivate others to action. She is the author of In This House, We Will Giggle, creator of ABC Scripture Cards and Virtue Cards and the kindness movement Light ‘Em Up Acts. Her latest project is a community for tween girls and their moms - found at TreasuredGirlz.com. Her house is a wreck and she hates to cook. She adores her hot, patient husband. She posts entirely too many photos of her two girls on Instagram. Connect with Courtney anytime: Twitter • Website • Facebook • Instagram

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