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Kids, In Our House, Love is Not Optional

January 24, 2016 //  by Courtney

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I break this blogging break – for a soapbox on sibling fighting.

You guys – my kids. The fighting!!!

I know. I know. They are kids. They are little. They will fight. One minute, they are basically making out with each other – and then the next they are squeezing the fire out of each other’s arms. And the boss hogs are in town. They will be leaders. Repeat. They will be leaders.

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So – I just have to share what has gone down today in HOPES that it will help you – in case one or two of you have people fighting in your homes.

We went to check out Gateway again – there are SO MANY fantastic churches around here and we are just trying to let God lead us to the best spot. The leader of Larson’s room was surprised but so open when I asked to sit in and watch. I want to know what my kids are being taught. How much is entertainment? And how much is the gospel? So I sat in the back row with 200 kids.

And it was awesome.

This video seriously brought the chills – that you know is only from above. I grabbed Larson’s hand and whispered from one “little sister” to another little sister – “Larson, your sister loves you.” Because I know what it’s like to want to be your big sister. I know what it’s like to be left out and have your feelings hurt. Sisters are HARD. I feel bad for Ella who is trying but sometimes just wants space and her friends.

This video. Y’ALL. THIS VIDEO!

Connie’s Testimony on Forgiveness from Gateway Amazing Kids on Vimeo.

Please please watch it with your kids – boys or girls.

It is an incredibly powerful reminder for them – how we can impact our siblings in hurtful ways and then redeem that with forgiveness.

I came home also rocked by what the guy (Bryant?) said about I Corinthians 13;4-7. It was like I was seeing it for the first time again. I don’t often pull my kids for an official “devotional” around the table. But we did today and I took some photos because I knew I’d be sharing it with you today.

Step 1.

We discussed the video from church (you can watch right here!)

Connie’s Testimony on Forgiveness from Gateway Amazing Kids on Vimeo.

Step 2.

We got our Bibles and highlighted two verses – the one from the Virtue Cards and from In This House, We Will Giggle for this month. I Corinthians 13:4-7 and I John 4:19

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Step 3.

We colored the verse.

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Step 4.

I gave them a chance to write each other a letter and used this template that I whipped up. Sorry, not a designer but it worked. Beautifully.

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I GAVE THEM ONE RULE: you cannot mention your sister’s faults. Only what you can do better.

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Step 5.

I read them this Code of Siblings that I made up today. Again, I’m not a designer. But I like having this as something we can refer back to.

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Loving Well

This virtue is so important to me. LOVE! Siblings are going to be their closest friends for life (or we pray). They will surely disagree – but the way they protect and love one another is core to the foundation of family. There has to be boundaries of respect and honor in family. As parents, we have to place a high value on this – love one another like Jesus would. We can’t love our friends and strangers way better than we love our family. Even when it’s hard – we gotta choose to love. We need to find ways to make that a virtue that is valued in our home – in how we expect them to treat one another. We can even spend time ensuring they get space from one another. Loving one another doesn’t mean always being together.

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I don’t want my kids to love well – because I want good Christian kids that hold hands and act nice – it’s because their hearts matter. It’s because Christ first loved us. It’s because little jabs from siblings can add up to major wounds. And as we all know, wounds divide families.

Your siblings are often the ones with you in the end. The ones you can call when everyone has gone. With you when you lose your parents or birth a child. They’ve known you the longest and they know all of you – the best and the worst.

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Let’s practice this month (well, in February) in very small and sweet ways how to put our family first – try #LoveEmUp – ideas in my book and here on the site. From sweet notes to picking up each other chores – the options are endless. Let’s be the kind of families that start modeling this idea of LOVE – we protect each other. We are patient. We are kind. We make our homes a safe place to be, not a war zone.

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In this journey with you all. Thanks for listening to another soapbox. Hoping these tools help you in some small way. It certainly made my Sunday go from highly discouraged and frustrated to seeing these beautiful girls TRUE hearts for each other.

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When they read the notes to each other – they asked me to put the camera down. It was like they knew – this part was sacred. This part was raw – the private moments of my girls. When only our family could peak in and see the true them.

It was love.

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About Courtney

Courtney DeFeo is most known for being a factory of ideas for families. It’s her desire to lead a life that radiates God’s love in action and His grace along the way. As a former marketing professional for corporations such as Chick-fil-A and Ketchum Public Relations, Courtney has a history of creating memorable programs and ideas that motivate others to action. She is the author of In This House, We Will Giggle, creator of ABC Scripture Cards and Virtue Cards and the kindness movement Light ‘Em Up Acts. Her latest project is a community for tween girls and their moms - found at TreasuredGirlz.com. Her house is a wreck and she hates to cook. She adores her hot, patient husband. She posts entirely too many photos of her two girls on Instagram. Connect with Courtney anytime: Twitter • Website • Facebook • Instagram

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