I have a lot of words, too many words

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I have a lot of thoughts and words. And there’s more bad news. I am pretty courageous and bold. So, it doesn’t really matter who is there or around the table. I just share. Eek.

This combination (full of words and confidence) can be a strength. I am not afraid of confrontation or being shut down – I just share ideas, thoughts and more.

However, as I am slowly maturing and craving Jesus in all of me – I am realizing how my mouth can be a weakness.

  • Have you ever had to delete something you wrote on social media?
  • Have you ever had to apologize for a quick comment or email?
  • Have you ever been misunderstood?
  • Have you ever turned red from embarrassment in a meeting?


I have.


This mouth can be used for such good. Amazingly good things. I have used it to inspire, motivate, share God’s love, teach, speak love and life, affirm, build others up.

My mouth has been used for bad. I have hurt others. I have shared secrets. I have joked when it wasn’t funny. And on and on.


This is why I am CRAZY about Karen’s new book Keep It Shut. Here is what I said in my official endorsement in the book.

Everyone with a mouth like mine needs this book! Karen Ehman has a gift. She shares a message we need to hear in a way that is helpful, not condemning. I’m thankful for how Karen encourages women to lead like Jesus from head to toe.” – Courtney DeFeo


When she sent me the endorsement request, I texted back and said, “Thanks Karen. Great. Is your next one called “Stop Instagramming!” ? She had already rocked me with “Let It Go” about being a control freak and NOW I have to reign in my mouth.

Necessary encouragement in the sweetest way.

Straight shooter that makes you laugh.

Real deal.

That’s Karen.

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I love Jesus so much and I love his people. So, I want all of my body and soul to honor Him – including this mouth. She gives some real practical ways of doing this. You will love it.


For all those vowing to use their words for good, say AMEN! And get your copy quick!


IT LAUNCHES TODAY! Happy book birthday Karen.


You can get Keep It Shut wherever books or sold including:

Proverbs 31


Barnes N Noble

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Get to know Karen on her blog.

Now, don’t send this book as a recommendation to your most annoying twitter followers or mean high school friend. Okee-dokee? 🙂



Just say hello!



One winner will be picked by Friday.

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  1. I feel like I’m like the lips on the book, I need to keep my lips zipped! It is hard for me to keep my mouth shut when I feel I am right about something.

  2. Karen Ehman mentioned that you were giving away a copy of her book today. I don’t wee where?
    BUT WAIT…there’s more!

    I have tons of fabulous blogger friends who are also giving away copies of the book and more. I’ll keep you posted as to who and where. {For starters, Courtney DeFeo is giving away one today!}

  3. Karen should of wrote this book a long time ago just for me and did it like u can buy kids books where u can put their names thruout the book because my name would be in every spot….now when I read it im gonna prob put my name in many places lol
    Can’t wait to buy it n start reading it n yup to do the bible study too!!! My bday is jan 26th n I will be 67 young ( get that young well I try to be ha!!! ) so hopefully I will finally learn to SHUT IT UP n have more peace in my life ( well peace for my hubby kids Grkids family n friends )
    This book in my mind n heart is going to be the best seller of 2015!!! Way to go Karen!!! Blessings to all u gals at Proverbs 31 who have made a difference in my life for the last 3 yrs 🙂

  4. I LOVE the title of this book! How often I need to be reminded that God is in control. Stepping back for even a second or two allows me to give whatever it is to Him in prayer , and realize that He is already on it. He is the Alpha and Omega and already knows what the outcome will be if I surrender all to Him. Being quiet is not being weak. Being quiet is strength in action as we get our strength through Him moment by moment, situation by situation.

  5. i had to laugh out loud when your email popped up this morning. boy do i have a lot of words. i was at work in the midst of editing my too long explanation to something – knowing i had made the point maybe 100 words ago and that it was time to stop! i cannot wait to add this book to my library – a little correction given in love is never a bad thing. thanx for sharing!

  6. Wow. That meme…the ‘use mouth/Godly purpose ‘one. OUCH! yes, I too need this. And it applies to our thumbs/fingers in text messages too I think. (Just stilled my thumbs the other day, w/an adult child. Lol?)
    Thanks for offering this giveaway! I know I need this book. I know my women’s Bible study group needs it. Perhaps the larger group (mixed, males,hubbies,teens etc) needs it too. But, don’t think I will persuade anyone to go thru it. 🙂
    Whether I win or not, I’m looking forward to reading this.

  7. Would love to win this! I study scriptures and pray about my mouth. I know a book isn’t what will cure my mouth issue on The Lord, but could use some points to ponder!

  8. Can’t wait to read this book by Karen! It is something I’m working on watching–my words this year! I need to be a better listener, too!!
    Thank you for this give-away!

  9. This book is exactly what I have been looking for! My Sister and I just last week were talking about trying to hold one another accountable for being less negative and being gossipy about our husbands. This would certainly be a very great tool in my marriage. Excited about this book!

  10. Just met with my accountability partner last week and handed her a card with verses to pray for me about being utterly ruthless about my mouth. Anxious to read Karen’s thoughts!

  11. I’m blessed to live in the same town as Karen, and she has done some speaking at my church. I NEED this book, because my mouth won’t zip sometimes. And then I have to lay awake at night and keep asking myself WHY WHY WHY won’t you learn? 🙂

  12. Hello! As my mom use to say, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Looking forward to reading this. Thanks for the chance to win a copy.

  13. I can’t wait to read this book and would love to win a copy! Your blog is very uplifting and motivating to me as a Christian woman in need of God’s daily grace.

  14. Well I forwarded your post and Karens blog to my husband this morning. Obviously this came to my inbox about 12 hours too late….too many words… Need to stop…Maybe that should be my motto! Thanks for the great posts! #keepitshutbook How I would love a copy!

  15. A New Years Resolution: Take my time before posting to a post! Sometimes I ‘react’ or ‘respond’ and forget to acknowledge, feel, say thank you, be encouraging. Taking a step back. This book can help! Thank you.

  16. I would love to read this book. It is so hard to bite your tongue and not say anything sometimes when you know you need to not speak/comment.

  17. Thanks for your post Courtney. ‘Keep It Shut’ will certainly be an awesome study to the benefit of so many people. I am looking forward to it.

    Your thoughts and the images about the words we speak keep me attentive and grab my heart. I enjoy your writing style and how you genuinely share. Thanking God for the vision and the gifts He has given you.

    Peace be with you!

  18. I would love to win this book it will help me with listening to God instead of voicing what I think he is telling me.

  19. Hello!
    I’m afraid I need this book and I’m sure everyone who knows me would agree!! My 3rd Grade teacher told me I had “diarrhea of the mouth.” – Enough said!
    Winning a copy would be a blessing, as I haven’t yet been able to pay this month’s rent.
    P.S. Seeing the promotion of this book on P31 confirmed My One Word for this year: QUIET.

  20. My lips/mouth have gotten me in more trouble than I care to remember. Like Karen stated once the words are spoken they can’t be taken back. It’s very hard to repair the damage our words cause and sometimes impossible. Most of us could use help with this.

  21. I would love to win This. This book is perfect for what God is revealing to me on what I need to do different. Towards myself, husband, babies. I would be tickled to win this. So.. “hello!” Pick ME ME ME ME!!!!

  22. My pastor used to say that sometimes it’s best to practice the “ministry of silence”—often easier said than done! Looks like this book will be a helpful tool to do just that.

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