At what age should you have “the talk?”

I am a mom of girls. They are little, but growing at lightening speed. I am preparing and thinking about the years ahead. Boy questions are already coming up. They are observant little things.

I am not panicked, I am preparing.”

I look for wise, biblical counsel. And I pray. Check back with me in a few years when I am panicking. 🙂

Lynn Cowell is one of those wise people. She is PASSIONATE about girls, especially teens. She is one of those godly leaders in the Proverbs 31 team you read about often and she speaks with such fire yet genuine love.

Her book came out called Magnetic just weeks before mine. And it gripped me. Just the title.

I want my girls magnetic. That’s it! I want boys ABSOLUTELY gripped, attracted, drawn to them – not by their looks, money, personality, wit or cute clothes. By something inside. I want the love of their heavenly Father to flow right out of my girls in such a way – that they captivate others.

Lynn crystalizes a deep desire (maybe part fear) that I have for my girls. I want them to be pursued – for who they are – just as they are. I don’t want them desperate for love and attention.

I am delighted she is giving away two copies below AND she is writing for you today!  I need this question answered. Now! When Do We Have THE TALK?! Eek! Take it away Lynn!

At What Age Should You Have The Talk?

by Lynn Cowell

So…how old were you when you got the talk?

Yeah, that one. The one when you learned it all…and were probably mortified.

I was…well, actually, I never got the talk.

What I learned I heard on Lincoln Elementary School playground in Cedar Falls, Iowa in 3^rd grade. What Lisa missed, my 5^th grade teacher filled in the blanks a few years later.

To be honest, it wasn’t much longer after that, when I was still a teenager myself, that I decided I was going to do things differently. I know, it is very dangerous to say that, that you’ll do things differently. And actually there are not very many things I did differently as a mom because my mom was amazing. But when it came to my girls learning about what I consider one of God’s greatest gifts, well, this is where we were not the same.

It was when my girls were each in 3^rd grade, (yes, I did repeat with them the year I learned at school because I wanted to be the first one to tell them and not their own form of Lisa on the playground). We took the trip. We hit the road with lots of snacks and loud music (or knowing me it was the other way around). Did some shopping. Eating out and staying in a place that was nicer than the norm for our family. And during the car ride, Doctor Dobson told them all about how they came into the world (via CD’s of course).

That was the beginning of our conversations…and they have never stopped. Mariah is now 20. Madi 17 and we still talk about boys, dating and all the things that lead up to babies coming into this world.

These two precious girls are the driving force behind why I write books and travel across the country talking to teen girls. I want them to have a safe place – where someone will tell them what they need to know and whether it is with their mom, a small group or even with me through social media, they have a place where they can ask any question. Any. Even my 23 year old son and I still talk about girls. What he is looking for…and not finding

I want this for you and your kids too. If you want it of course.

So if you want open conversations where your kids can feel free to talk about anything, I hope this free resource (video below) which Courtney has been so kind to share today will help open up discussions for you and your girl. But not just for you and your girl, but for their Sunday School class, small group, youth group or any place where girls want to talk about boys (which is just about any place).

In addition to my book – as a resource for “the talk” – I would recommend this resource if you are nervous already by Family Life.

Enter to Win

We’re also giving two readers another freebie today – a copy of “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants”. Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing truth Magnetic by Lynn Cowell (available at Amazon, B&N, CBD, everywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl attractive to the right type of guy: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!

To enter to win, simply share the name of the young women you would love to see reach her fullest potential and receive a copy of Magnetic. TWO winners will be drawn this Saturday.

If you cannot see the video, you’ll find it and the free discussion questions here.

About Lynn

Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including her newest Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants. Her passion in speaking and writing is empowering wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything combining chocolate and peanut butter.

Thank you Lynn! I cannot wait to share this video with many friends (and my girls one day). IT IS AMAZING. Ladies – press play and keep watching. You won’t be sorry!

I fully endorse Magnetic.